Hi sweeties! It has been quiet here the last two weeks… I had the most two stressy and hectic weeks of my life. (Well, it certainly deserves a place in my top ten of most hectic moments) Some of you may already know it, but 6 months ago I decided to trade my couple life for a single one. December 9th I kicked off that single mommy life with movin’ into our new house.
But let me be honest with you: as much as I love this new lifestyle/situation, It ain’t easy at all. And I’m not talking about the financial part but about the responsibilities as a single parent.
Here’s how I survive :
From now on the biggest part of my life is planned, even the most silly things. Being an impulsive, chaotic and over-enthousiastic person this was my worst nightmare. I like being surprised and unprepared but I quickly realized it would put us in many difficult situations. That’s why the important things are planned but my weekends are still chaotic 😉
This has always been the case, but even more now. They are my first priority. As a single parent, you’re the only one they can count on, the only one they trust and the only one they believe in. There’s no room (or not much room) for mistakes. It’s taking your responsibilities every single day and every single minute.
Depending on the age of your kids of course, but keep in mind that communication is everything. My boys are 5 and 2. When I took the decision to leave their dad I immediately told them how our new life would look like. I pictured the future and waited patiently for their reaction. My youngest son didn’t have a clue… But Jaro, my eldest son, understood and agreed quickly. The boys are my hero’s. And I’m treating my eldest son as the new MAN of the house, I let him be in charge of “important” things and he loves that!
The worst part of breaking up when kids are included, is that you have to miss them from time to time. Friends who are in the same situation, keep telling me it will get easier and that I’ll learn to appreciate that time-off… I’m not there yet…
I’ll fill those days with gym, spending time with friends, blogging, taking long warm baths with lots of foam, citytrips,… and hopefully many crazy adventures!
It’s important to stay positive, how difficult the situation may be. If YOU aren’t positive, how can your kids be? I’ve chosen for this life and I know there’ll be lots of ups and downs. But at the same time I’m SO proud! I’m proud I had the balls to leave, I’m proud I get to show my boys and every single one of you that it’s possible to start all over AND to be happy again!
If you’re in an unhappy situation at this moment, I hope this will encourage you to follow your heart and to take the necessary steps. I DID IT AND SO CAN YOU! I’m rooting for you! Lots of love from one independent human being to another -XXX-